ENDA faces more delay in Senate committee

By Chris Geidner, BuzzFeed

WASHINGTON — LGBT advocates — who faced a setback this week when the Senate kept protections for same-sex couples out of immigration reform — will have to wait until after the Fourth of July holiday to see any action on another top priority: a bill to ban workplace discrimination against LGBT people.
“I’ ve got a couple, three things on my agenda right now. I think we’re going to do ENDA probably after the Fourth of July break,” Sen. Tom Harkin, the chairman of the Health, Education, Labor and Pensions Committee that is considering the Employment Non-Discrimination Act, told BuzzFeed this week.
Supporters had hoped to see the bill move out of the committee by June at the latest.
At ENDA’s introduction, the bill’s lead sponsor, Sen. Jeff Merkley of Oregon, had told BuzzFeed that he hoped to have the bill marked up in May or June.
“It’ s not ideal,” said Freedom to Work executive director Tico Almeida, who called the delay “disappointing .”
“It would have been the preference of many LGBT advocates to hold the markup in May or June, but the committee has a very busy schedule, and I do think that some policy makers in Washington, D.C., have a philosophy that nothing should be done on any gay rights issue until after the Supreme Court rules in the marriage equality cases,” he said. Almeida said he disagrees with that philosophy, but, “[M]any people in this town have decided to put all LGBT issues on hold until the Supreme Court rules.”
Almeida’ s organization has attempted to move forward nonetheless, filing a complaint on Wednesday in Illinois alleging that ExxonMobil discriminates on the basis of sexual orientation in its employment practices.
Human Rights Campaign spokesman Michael Cole-Schwartz wouldn’t directly criticize Harkin’s move, only telling BuzzFeed, “We have been pressing the chairman to bring up for a markup and have every confidence that he will make good on that pledge. We would like to see that as soon as possible.”
Almeida, whose organization has been more vocal than HRC in criticizing the lack of legislative and executive movement on workplace protections, nonetheless added, “We remain 100% confident that Chairman Harkin plans a markup this summer that will move ENDA successfully from the committee and position it for floor action in the fall.”
On that, Cole-Schwartz concurred, saying, “We expect that ENDA will be marked up with plenty of opportunity for the majority leader to bring it for a vote as well. Our hope is that ENDA will receive a floor vote this year.”
Merkley’ s office had no comment on Harkin’s statement, but a spokesman noted that the bill already has support from 46 co-sponsors, plus Reid’s support, and that they remain optimistic the bill will be heard on the Senate floor this year.
Two Republicans, Sens. Susan Collins and Mark Kirk, are co-sponsors of the bill.

Eight Democrats — Sens. Maria Cantwell, Tom Carper, Heidi Heitkamp, Tim Johnson, Joe Manchin, Florida’s Bill Nelson, Mark Pryor, and John Rockefeller — and Independent Sen. Angus King, who caucuses with the Democrats, are not co-sponsors.

Word Up 217 — New Church Family newsletter

WORD UP –May 22, 2013

Weekly Newsletter No. 217

New Church Family ICCC, span>

3520 W. International Speedway Blvd.

Daytona Beach, FL 32124

 

Rev Susan McDaniels Interim Pastor

www.newchurchfamily.org Tel. 386-527-5952

www.newchurchfamily@gmail.com

 

“We are the love of Christ. We believe the Holy Spirit empowers us. We will serve the community.”

 

THIS SUNDAY – May26 – Worship & Holy Communion, 10 a.m., Rev. Susan McDaniels preaching.

  “Memorial Reading” – In keeping with a Memorial Day custom we started a few years ago,  we will read our list of deceased church members & friends during Prayers of the People, following by a few moments of silent prayer.

SCRIPTURE FOR TRINITY SUNDAY:

Lectionary Readings (Revised Common Lectionary, Year C)

Proverbs 8:1–4, 22–31; Psalm 8; Romans 5:1–5; John 16:12–15

 

PRAYERS of the PEOPLE:

  Healing for Gerry and Frank, still feeling quite ill.

  Healing for Dan R.

  Strength and comfort for Teresa and Rick, mourning the loss of their German Shepherd to cancer. May a puppy now getting weaned in Lake County brighten their lives.

  Continued prayers for 6-year-old cancer patient Lila Rose

  Jay and Tom give thanks their elderly cat Simba is showing improvement. After 7 trips to the vet in 7 days, he is eating on his own, and gained 4 ounces over the weekend.

  John S. offers thanks for Rev. Susan’s sermons

  Thanksgiving for the life of Griff, who died at his Port Orange home as he wished, at 87.

  Recovery and comfort for Oklahoma families devastated by a tornado.

 Margaret asks prayers for her brother Pat, not doing well after a car accident. Also for the family of the DeLand man who was run over and killed by a deputy sheriff during a chase (for not wearing a seatbelt.)

SUNDAY SERMON RECAP – PENTECOST – (May 20) Many of us are familiar with the Pentecost miracle recounted in Book of Acts  – the apostles being filled with the holy spirit and anointed with flames as they regrouped after the Resurrection. Rev. Susan reminded us of the origin of the Pentecost – a “festival of wheat” to be offered to God 50 days  from Passover.  It commemorated Moses’ ascent up Mount Sinai where he had a personal encounter with God and received the instructions we call the Ten Commandments. It was an occasion marked by thunder, lightning, fire, smoke and earthquakes. (See Exodus Ch. 19)

    So often in the Bible, the proximity of God was linked to extraordinary events in nature. Ancient people believed that God was using quakes and lightning bolts to get their attention. Yet today, even with the fresh tragedy of the Oklahoma tornado, we treat  natural disasters as almost routine events. We seldom venture outdoors to witness the spectacle directly. Instead, we huddle before our TVs and watch the Weather Channel.

     Tom’s afterthought: We’re all familiar with certain televangelists who assert that gay people are somehow to blame for freak weather events. Ignoring the advances in meteorology that have made hurricanes, tornadoes and floods  more predictable, they argue that God is punishing the world  for its growing GLBT tolerance. All I can say is that those guys had better go outside and lift their eyes to the heavens. After the storm subsides and the sun comes out, there it is – God’s love for all humanity, including gays,  beautifully displayed in the rainbow.     

 

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Study: Marriage bans raise GLBT stress

By National Public Radio, npr.org

 

As the country awaits two important Supreme Court decisions involving state laws on , a small but consistent body of research suggests that laws that ban gay marriage — or approve it — can affect the mental health of gay, lesbian and bisexual Americans. When several states passed laws to prohibit same-sex marriage, for example, the mental health of gay residents seemed to suffer, while stress-related disorders dropped in at least one state after gay marriage was legalized.

Here’s the research trail:

Beginning around 2004, Florida and several other states banned gay marriage. Just before that series of bans, the National Institutes of Health happened to conduct a massive of 43,093 Americans. The questions elicited detailed information about respondents’ mental health. (To validate what people reported about themselves, psychiatrists also interviewed samples of the people in the survey, and their medical diagnoses closely matched the findings of the survey.)

Soon after the wave of state bans on gay marriage, in 2004 and 2005, the NIMH conducted a second round of interviews, managing to reach 34,653 of the original respondents. (That’s a high rate compared with most polls and surveys.)

Mark Hatzenbuehler, a psychologist at Columbia University who studies the health effects of social policies, analyzed the data gathered before and after the bans to determine how the mental health of people who identified themselves as gay, lesbian or bisexual had changed in those states.

Hatzenbuehler and his colleagues Katie McLaughlin, Katherine Keyes and Deborah Hasin published their in 2010 in the American Journal of Public Health.

“Lesbian, gay and bisexual individuals who lived in the states that banned same-sex marriage experienced a significant increase in psychiatric disorders,” says.

“There was a 37 percent increase in mood disorders,” he says, “a 42 percent increase in alcohol-use disorders, and — I think really strikingly — a 248 percent increase in generalized anxiety disorders.”

To put those numbers in perspective, although Hatzenbuehler did find more than a doubling in the rate of anxiety disorders in states that eventually banned gay marriage, in absolute numbers he found that anxiety disorders went from being reported among 2.7 percent to 9.4 percent of gay, lesbian and bisexual people.

The million-dollar question is whether the laws, and the debates around them, were responsible for the change in mental health. To help answer that question, Hatzenbuehler and his colleagues looked at comparable groups and experiences.

“We showed the psychiatric disorders did not increase in lesbian, gay and bisexual populations in states that didn’t debate and vote on same-sex marriages,” Hatzenbuehler says. “There were also no increases — or much smaller increases — among heterosexuals living in the states that passed same-sex marriage bans.”

Hatzenbuehler has also found, in a study conducted in Massachusetts, that gay men experienced fewer stress-related disorders after that state permitted gay marriage.

In a tracking the health of 1,211 gay men in Massachusetts, Hatzenbuehler found that the men visited doctors less often and had lower health treatment costs after Massachusetts legalized same-sex marriage. When the researchers examined the diagnostic codes doctors were giving the men, they saw a decrease in disorders that have been linked to stress, such as hypertension, depression and adjustment disorders.

Hatzenbuehler says he thinks stress associated with gay-marriage debates was the “X factor.” He says the quantitative data is backed by what gays, lesbians and bisexuals told the surveyors. “They reported multiple stressors during that period,” Hatzenbuehler says. “They reported seeing negative media portrayals, anti-gay graffiti. They talked about experiencing a loss of safety and really feeling like these amendments and these policies were really treating them as second-class citizens.”

Today, about three-dozen states gay marriage and about a dozen have passed laws that it. Some states have laws that permit civil unions but ban gay marriage.

It’s unclear how or whether the upcoming Supreme Court decisions involving the constitutionality of will affect the mental and physical health of gays and lesbians nationally.

It’s likely that many gay, lesbian and bisexual people would see an upholding of same-sex marriage bans as an example of prejudice. But it’s also possible the debate around the Supreme Court decisions could have different effects on gays than a local debate involving friends and neighbors.

Hatzenbuehler says his larger point is really that policymakers, judicial leaders and ordinary citizens need to remember that social policies are also health policies.

Minnesota legalizes gay marriage

New York Times

 

Minnesota Gov. Mark Dayton signed a measure Tuesday (May 14) giving gay couples the right to marry, making Minnesota the 12th state in the nation to permit same-sex marriage.

During a signing ceremony outside the State Capitol in St. Paul, where thousands of Minnesotans gathered and cheered in 90-degree weather,  Dayton, a Democrat, praised the choices of state lawmakers as changing the course of history.

The State Legislature, controlled by Democrats, approved the measure in recent days, marking the first state in the Midwest to allow same-sex marriage through legislative action, rather than a court action. Last fall, opponents campaigned for a constitutional amendment to define marriage as between a man and a woman in the state, but voters rejected the measure. The law goes into effect in August.

    Marriage advocates estimate about 40 percent of the GLBT population now have access  to marriage in their home states, plus the District of Columbia. However, the “married”  status is largely symbolic as long as the federal Defense of Marriage Act remains in force. The U.S. Supreme Court is reviewing the controversial anti-gay statute and is expected to issue a decision in late June.

Bare-chested A&F — still cool or silly?

By BrandChannel.com

“No fatties.” That’s the underlying concept of the latest outrage about fashion brand Abercrombie & Fitch.

But what’s the bigger threat for the brand? Some controversial comments the CEO made seven years ago, or cultural irrelevance? The fact that Abercrombie has to go back more than a half decade to gin up some outrage about its brand may demonstrate that the brand’s most significant days are in the past.

Abercrombie & Fitch’s latest “scandal” is some years-old quotes from the company’s CEO about only wanting attractive, “cool” young customers combined with the revelation that the brand does not make size XL or above for women. Many have grabbed the news and turned it into a public campaign against the brand, dredging up all kinds of tangential complaints about Abercrombie & Fitch (such as the above one about homeless people). Yes, of course there is a Change.org petition.

“On the one hand, I’m surprised that people are now up-in-arms about a fairly pedestrian and undeniably ancient quote,” Jenna Sauers, a former model who covers fashion regularly for Bookforum, the Village Voice, the New York Observer, and Jezebel.com told brandchannel. “On the other hand,” Sauers added, “there are plenty of reasons to criticize Abercrombie & Fitch.”

Indeed, really, who hasn’t Abercrombie & Fitch offended? In 2002, the brand was the focus of outrage about Asian stereotyping. A decade later, the passages from an employee manual for CEO Mike Jeffries’ corporate jet leaked (stewards must “spritz” themselves with Abercrombie & Fitch #41 cologne) and a model sued for sexual harassment. In 2011, the brand even managed to insult the Jersey Shore cast after offering—in what now seems like a good move—to pay the cast not to wear Abercrombie clothing. That same year, the Council on American-Islamic Relations took up the case of an employee fired for wearing her hijab. “Controversy and Criticism” is one of the longest sections of the brand’s Wikipedia entry. As a man with body hair, I’ve felt slighted by the brand for years, and as Sauers noted, the quote itself actually dates back to an earlier controversy about body-type discrimination.

“Jeffries’ comments aren’t surprising to anyone familiar with the company history or values, and nor would the sentiment behind them be beyond the ken of anyone who’s ever so much as glanced at an Abercrombie ad,” said Sauers, describing A&F’s target market as for “‘cool’ kids and ‘cool’ kids only.”

This kind of criticism has worked wonders for the brand, making it a signifier of rebellion against everything youths hate from political correctness to societal norms. In 2000, the brand scored an incredible PR coup when its racy catalog got it banned at conservative Bob Jones University. Parents—because they understand branding even less than they understand teenagers—have, over the years, publicly made Abercrombie & Fitch one of the biggest targets of their outrage. It’s a favor that really deserves some dividend payments.

And those dividend payments prove, in anything, that investors see A&F scandals as reasons to buy the brand’s stock. Since the latest uproar over the old remarks became social media fodder, Abercrombie & Fitch’s stock price has climbed almost four percent. Such a reaction even has precedent. In the two months after the brand lost a $40 million class-action racial discrimination lawsuit in April 2005, its stock price climbed nearly 28 percent.

But there is reason to believe that A&F’s latest trafficking in controversy may not be all good for the brand.

Even with a recent climb over the $50 a share threshold, A&F is way off its peaks of 2007, when the brand traded above $80 a share. Moreover, as Forbes recently pointed out, the faded, low-rise-jeaned, flannel-shirted sector that Abercrombie practically invented is now littered with (often cheaper) competitors like American Eagle Outfitters. Even Abercrombie’s messaging has been diluted. Over a decade ago, its A&F Quarterly catalog was including content such as drinking advice and porn star interviews, content now regularly covered by publications such as Vice magazine.

Ironically, if anything will do in the Abercrombie brand it will be the strength of the brand itself.

 

Like the Hummer and Von Dutch, Abercrombie & Fitch represents an American era that many Americans might rather put behind them. The rise of “hipster” fashion—the kind now popular from Urban Outfitters and H&M—has also presented a direct challenge to A&F’s pre-economic meltdown “bro” positioning. Instead of attempting to absorb some elements of the bearded, artisanal, multiculturalist hipster trends, Abercrombie has doubled down, becoming a kind of parodic version of itself. This brand positioning is thrown into no better relief than by the recent Chippendales-inspired Abercrombie video for the hit song “Call Me Maybe.” Addressing this change, Sauers thinks a new class of young customers might be very turned off by this perfect, “snooty cool-kids-only vibe.” Sauers points to the source of the latest outrage as the biggest reason Abercrombie might want to worry:

“It’s interesting that, unlike previous waves of outrage directed at Abercrombie—for instance the “thongs for kids” kerfuffle of 2002—this one seems to be led not by concerned parents, but by teenagers on social media. In the first instance, it’s easy to paint the first kind of critic as old, conservative, and out of touch—Abercrombie dealt with the thongs controversy by pulling the product, yes, but also by dog-whistling to its customer base that hey, Abercrombie sold sexy clothes that made your parents mad. In the second instance, it’s a lot harder to find a way to profit from outrage if the outrage is being generated by the people who are your customer base in the form of Change.org petitions and incessant critical Tweets. Maybe Abercrombie’s vision of the high school caste system is getting a little dated. Teens seem to think so.”

In the 2012 hit film based on the show 21 Jump Street, two young policemen go undercover in a high school years after graduating in the early 2000s. Basing their ideas of how to be cool from their own era, the pair are confused to find environmentalism, earnestness, compassion and “two-strapping” have suddenly become cool while their own, early 2000s posturing is offensive. Abercrombie could suddenly be learning the same lesson.

IRS has targeted GLBT groups


Before there was the Tea Party, there was Big Mama Rag, Inc.

It was a radical feminist collective in the 1970s, and it devoted itself to lectures, seminars, a free library, and publishing a newspaper to voice its ideas, namely the Big Mama Rag. The group applied for nonprofit status from the IRS, and was initially refused for, among other reasons, “the articles, lectures, editorials, etc. promoting lesbianism.”

When tax collectors end up making social policy. (Photo by JIM LO SCALZO/EPA)

It wasn’t the end of the IRS taking a discriminatory tone toward nonprofit groups that dealt with homosexuality, however.  In 1996, the Gay and Lesbian Adolescent Support System, a group devoted to helping young people deal with harassment and prejudice due to their sexuality, applied for tax exempt status. In response, an IRS official wrote that the group could be viewed as “tending to encourage or facilitate homosexual practice and propensities by the young and impressionable,” and asked the group to “describe in detail the procedures and safeguards in place to assure that counselors and participants do not encourage or facilitate homosexual practices or encourage the development of homosexual attitudes and propensities by minor individuals attending your programs.”

Which brings us to the IRS scandal of the moment, in which tax officials screened applications for status as a social welfare organization based on whether they included “Tea Party” or “Patriots” in their name.

The Inspector General’s report on the Tea Party scandal paints a picture of mid-level IRS employees being extraordinarily insensitive to the fact that their method of screening applications to form a “social welfare organization” for possible excessive political involvement was by definition rigged against the conservative groups that exploded in number in the early years of the Obama administration. Even after being told to stop using politically tilted methods of screening the groups for review in 2011, the Cincinnati IRS office charged with reviewing the applications reversed course in early 2012 and went back to screening based on the group’s name.

There are two big similarities with the IRS’s struggles over groups dealing with homosexuality in decades’ past.

The most clear-cut similarity is that when legal standards around nonprofit groups’ tax treatment is vague, it leaves far too much power in the hands of tax collection bureaucrats.  In a 1980 ruling on the Big Mama Rag case, the U.S. Court of Appeals found against the IRS, writing that “applications for tax exemption must be evaluated . ..   on the basis of criteria capable of neutral application. The standards may not be so imprecise that they afford latitude to individual IRS officials to pass judgment on the content and quality of an applicant’s views and goals and therefore to discriminate against those engaged in protected First Amendment activities.”

Sounds about right. But now, 23 years later, IRS officials have done it again.  The Big Mama Rag case was about 501(c)3 tax status, the Tea Party scandal is about 501(c)4 social welfare organizations, but the original sin is the same: The standards for deciding whether a 501(c)4 is engaging in excessive political activity are impossibly vague, which inevitably assigns too much latitude to IRS staff to use their instincts and judgment.  They are allowed to engage in political activity, but not as a “primary” activity. Which means the IRS has to decide what counts as political activity, and what counts as primary. As Brad Plumer notes here, the IRS itself calls this a “facts and circumstances” decision, which a whole range of factors are to be weighed against each other. “Politics is not an exact science,” the IRS’s own guidelines say, understating things.

But here’s a second similarity with the anti-gay IRS cases of the past, though this one is harder to prove. When standards are vague, it leaves too much room for IRS agents’ decisions to be colored by their own instincts. They’re human beings, after all.

It’s easy to believe that the IRS officials involved in crafting the comments quoted above in the tax treatment of groups dealing with gays were, on some basic level, a little skeeved out by gay people. This may have colored their skepticism of nonprofit tax treatment of Big Mama Rag and GLASS.

It’s similarly easy to believe that the same applied in the Tea Party situation today. If you’ve spent your life as a tax collector, you’re naturally going to be a little unsettled by a surge in anti-tax activism. And you thus are going to be less attuned to the possibility that you are screening cases in a way that puts an ideological bias into the tax code.

In the investigations and self-examination that will follow the Tea Party case, lawmakers and the IRS need to carve out some time to think about this core issue: How can the rules around political activism by social welfare groups be crafted to make for more specific, quantifiable measures of where the line is, rather than giving so much leeway to the IRS bureaucrats? For example, a 501(c)4 might be allowed to spend 25 percent of its funds on political activity, defined as activity reportable to federal and state electoral conditions. There would still be plenty of disputes over what exactly should count as political activity, but at least there would be a common frame of reference to determine where the lines are.

For the last word, here’s what Jeffrey L. Yablon had to say in 1998. He is a tax lawyer who wrote the article for the “Journal of Taxation of Exempt Organizations” from which the descriptions of the IRS’s issues around gay-focused nonprofits in this piece are derived.

“There is no hint of a cease-fire being called anytime soon in the cultural wars that are being fought on the American political landscape,” wrote Yablon, who is now a partner at law firm Pillsbury Winthrop. “Not surprisingly, some of the combatants believe strongly and complain bitterly that the IRS has become a partisan for the other side. The only solution is to remove the IRS from the battlefield. The current vague and subjective rules must be replaced with a set of bright line’ tests that require little factual analysis and legal interpretation. The war will go on, of course, but there will be less chance of respect for tax laws becoming a casualty.”

Fifteen years later, it is still so.

Word Up 216 — New Church Family newsletter

WORD UP  216 – May 15, 2013

 

Weekly newsletter of NEW CHURCH FAMILY

3520 W. International Speedway Blvd. (US 92)

Daytona Beach, FL 32124

Rev. Susan McDaniels, interim pastor

 

Telephone: 386-527-5952

E-mail: NewChurchFamily@gmail.com

 

 

 

THI S SUNDAY – May 19 – PENTECOST SUNDAY – Worship & Holy Communion, 10 a.m., Rev. Susan McDaniels preaching.

 

 

SCRIPTURE for Sunday  (Pentecost Sunday) 

 

 

Lectionary Readings (Revised Common Lectionary, Year C)

 

Acts 2:1–21 or Genesis 11:1–9;  Psalm 104:24–34, 35b;  Romans 8:14–17 or Acts 2:1–21; John 14:8–17, (25–27)

 

PRAYERS –

n  Ron asks God’s blessing as his son Chris and wife Sarah attempt to start a family.

n  Healing for Frank & Gerry, still ailing

n  Safety for Linda N., having balance problems

n  Comfort for Teresa and Rick, saying goodbye to their terminally ill German shepherd

n  Healing for Simba, Jay and Tom’s elderly cat that stopped eating last week

n  Comfort & rest for the family of Ralph “Griff” Griffith, 87. He died Tuesday with his children at his bedside.

n  Keith asks healing for  his Aunt Chris, battling cancer,  and his aunt’s daughter, getting a knee replacement

n  Continued prayers for Lila Rose, the 6 year old with advanced cancer

n  Peace and harmony for Catherine and son Michael, going through the “terrible teen” phase

  

 

SUNDAY SERVICE RECAP – It was great to have Shawn Thomas and Brian Ladd back with us for special music. Shawn sang some of his standards, like “Voice of Truth” and “Still I Will,” plus some of his newer tunes, including the 23rd Psalm (with the verses sung backwards to create a hymn of affirmation!) 

CHURCH & COMMUNITY CALENDAR – This week & next

 

MAY 15, Wed. New Church Family Office Hours – 10:30 a.m. -2 p.m.

 

MAY 15 – DEADLINE for applications for GLBT scholarships offered by OneDaytona. (We have the forms at church or they can be copied from www.gaydaytona.com.) Details: www.gaydaytona.com.

 

MAY  17, FRI., 6-7:30 p.m. — PYRAMID Community Cafe discussion – Topic: Are you raising your children differently than you were raised?  Bonner Elementary School, 868 George W. Engram B;vd., Daytona Beach. The Cafe is a network of families, caregivers and providers partnering to strengthen families of children, expectant parents, and families of young children.

MAY 17, FRI, 8:30 a.m. – TGIF Coffee Break – Chitchat with NCF friends, anyone welcome. Panera Bread (rear of restaurant), Port Orange.

MAY 18, 8 a.m. — AIDS Walk Orlando at Lake Eola in downtown Orlando.  Details: www.aidswalkorlando.org.

 

MAY 18-19 – ORLANDO GAY CHORUS concerts. Hollywood-themed performances titled “We’re Ready For Our Close-Up.” May 18 at 7:30 p.m.; May 19 at 4:30 p.m.  at The PLAZA Live, 425 N. Bumby Ave., Orlando. Some of the songs OGC will sing include “Hooray for Hollywood,” “Over the Rainbow”  “Moon River” “Footloose,” and “The Rose” “Happy Days are Here Again” made famous by Judy Garland; and “Jai Ho” from Slum Dog Millionaire. Tickets $25 in advance, $30 at the door.

MAY 20, 6-8 p.m.  – PRESENTATION ON “LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE – Diane B. Trask, LMHC, MS, will lead the workshop. Daytona State College, Institute for Health Services, Building 320,  Room 541. Cost: $15.  Approved for 2 continuing education credits for those in Nursing, LCSW, LMHC, LMFT, Nursing Home Administrators, OT, OTA, PT, PTA, RT, TT, and Massage Therapists.  Program will help participants use laughter to build stronger coping skills, resilience, and happiness in their home and work lives. Details and registration: Janine Roberson at (386) 506-3522.

MAY 20, MON, 6 p.m. – New Church Family rescheduled monthly meeting of the Board of Directors. Contact clerk Bill P. if you have an agenda request. Topics:  Interim pastor’s covenant, termite prevention proposals, Internet service, scheduling.

MAY 20, 8:30 a.m. – DIVERSITY BREAKFAST sponsored by The Center (Orlando GLBT Center). Dubsdread Country, 5 West Par St., Orlando. Guest speakers: Stuart Milk, Harvey Milk’s nephew and head of the Harvey Milk Foundation, and US Rep. Alan Grayson. Tickets. $43 each, can be ordered at: http://harveymilkorlando.eventbrite.com

MAY 22, 10 a..m.  – VETERANS HISTORY PROJECT Orientation. – Information about a Library of Congres project to collect  information from veterans on their wartime experiences. City Island Library. Refreshments will be served.

For more information call Deborah Shafer at 386-257-6036, ext. 16264.

MAY 23, 7:30 p.m. – CELEBRITY PHOTOGRAPHER JACK MITCHELL

will discuss and present portraits of writers, including John Updike, Toni Morrison and Truman Capote. His work has appeared in Rolling Stone, The New York Times Magazine, People Magazine, Newsweek, Time, Life, Vogue and Vanity Fair. Deltona Library, Free. Details:  386-789-7207, press 4.

MAY 24, 6-9 p.m.    DeLand ART WALK & ARTISAN ALLEY – Located off New York Avenue, one block west of Woodland Blvd behind the Beacon Newspaper.  Downtown DeLand.  Free, self-guided tour of the Historic Downtown area.  Enjoy music, food, drinks, arts, crafts and more. …

MAY 25, SAT., 6-9 p.m. – MEMORIAL DAY CONCERT by the Docs of Dixieland & The United States Navy Band. Oceanfront Park, north end of the Boardwalk. Daytona Beach. Free concert, no coolers allowed. Chairs can be rented.

 (More events below)

VIVA  OUR VOLUNTEERS

n  Jerry is doing frequent updates  of our lobby bulletin board. Check the board for clips you might have missed in the newspaper.

n  Keith has donated  a tapestry of cartoon characters to brighten our walls.               

CHURCH & COMMUNITY CALENDAR (part    2 – future events)

MAY 23-25 – PENSACOLA   PARTY WEEKEND, with various nightclub events and a May 25 party on Pensacola Beach. Details: www.memorialweekendpensacola.com

 

MAY 25, 6-8 p.m. – SPAGHETTI DINNER FUNDRAISER to benefit PFLAG and Volusia Pride. Please RSVP in advance to the GLBT Community Center, 519 Julia St., New Smyrna. Suggested donation $10 Tickets may be purchased online at www.glbtcommunitycenterofvolusiacounty.com

 

MAY 26, 10-5 p.m. – SPACE COAST PRIDE, Wickham Pavillion, Melbourne.

 

MAY 28-JUNE  2 — Orlando Black Pride will take place, based at the Best Western Lake Buena Vista Resort Hotel. Kickoff event: “Love Conquers All” panel discussion at Rollins College – includes GLBT leaders, clergy, HIV specialists and others. Full schedule: orlandoblackpride.com.

MAY 29, 5-7 p.m.  – Artist’s reception for Photo Exhibit by Steven Spencer.  Southeast Museum of Photography. His exhibition continues through July 28. Some of the work explores the landscapes of Cocoa Beach, his hometown.                                                              

MAY 30, 2 p.mARCHAEOLOGY ALONG THE ST. JOHN’s RIVER – Presentation by Sarah Miller serves as Northeast Director for Florida Public Archaeology Network. Her specialties include 19th century material culture and historic cemeteries.Port Orange Library.

JUNE 1-2, GAY DAYS Weekend, Walt Disney World, Orlando, plus many nightclub events leading up to it. Some highlights: Silent auction benefitting several GLBT charities runs May 29 to June 2 at the Doubletree Inn at Sea World. Art, jewelry, travel packages, gift baskets etc. Also at the Doubletree June 1, 8 p.m.,  comedy show starring Judy Tenuta.

JUNE 5-9 KEY WEST PRIDE festival

 

JUNE 8-9 CAPITAL PRIDE Festival in Washington D.C. – Parade on June 8, festival on June 9.  Details: http://washingtondc.gaycities.com/events/22-capital-pride

JUNE 22-23, WILTON MANORS PRIDE FESTIVAL

 

JUNE 29, 9 a.m.-3 p.m.  – ST. PETE PRIDE Festival. Parade  9 a.m., starts at George’s Alibi bar and runs along Central Avenue.

 

DAILY, ongoing through Jan. 31, 2014 —  HAROLD GARDE ART EXHIBIT —  

Museum of Florida Art, 600 N. Woodland Boulevard, DeLand.  Garde’s roots go back to the abstract expressionist moment of the mid -0th century. These strong influences have helped create his current unique style as a figurative painter.

NEWS OF OUR EXTENDED FAMILY:

 

n  From singer Marcus Young:

“Hello, I wanted to share that I debuted a new song at Eternal Joy MCC of Dayton, Ohio on Easter Sunday and again last Sunday at Spirit Of The Cross of Huntsville, Ala.  I wrote “At The Cross Of My Savior” a few months ago and asked Lebron Anderson of Huntsville if he would arrange it for me.  It sounds great!  If you’re on Facebook check out the video.  

www.facebook.com/marcus.young.777

 

n  Announcement from our neighbors at the Emergency Animal Clinic:

  Affiliated Veterinary Specialists (AVS) of Maitland and AVS of Jacksonville have formed Affiliated Veterinary Specialists — Daytona, 3500 W. International Speedway Blvd., Daytona Beach. Hours are 8 a.m. to 6 p.m. Monday through Friday. For more information: 386-256-4789.

n  Upcoming Shawn Thomas concerts: May 26 at  The Rock MCC, Chattanooga, TN. 11am service.; June 1-2 Forgiving Heart ICCC, Columbus, GA. Silver Celebration Weekend with a Saturday concert at 7 p.m. and a Sunday service at 11 a.m.

EQUALITY UPDATE –  A MARRIAGE EQUALITY RALLY is being planned for Lake Eola in Orlando  on or about JUNE 27.

Info from The GLBT Center in Orlando:  The date is tentative based on the potential date of a U.S. Supreme Court decision. We will provide a lot more information including the program for this event as our plans finalize throughout May. This will be our pep rally / celebration of the SCOTUS decisions, along with more information of upcoming challenges our community still faces for full equality alongside our straight allies! And most of all, this is going to be FUN! Get ready to have a blast!

Speakers will include officials, clergy, activists, entertainers and “a celebrity or two.”

MORE INFO: http://www.paintorlandored.com/

 

We are looking for volunteers who would like to join us at the Lake Eola Bandshell to help set up the area for the festivity, create luminaires and distribute them around the lake, and to help afterwards with general cleanup and breakdown. If you would like to volunteer, please visit http://www.paintorlandored.com/ -> click on “contact us” and let us know!

ICCC NEWS  – (Plans for the 2013 Convocation, Nov.  1-3 in Greenville S.C.)

 

FRIDAY NIGHT VARIETY/TALENT SHOW!!!  We are excited to announce that the Friday night Convocation get-together (Nov. 1will be dinner followed by a variety/talent show.  We hope that we have at least one participant from each church.  The acts/performances/etc. should follow the overall 10th anniversary theme (“If I Be Lifted Up.”)  Please consider participating!  We would like to have submissions from the churches/individuals by July 15.   Dancing, singing, acting, poetry, storytelling, stand-up comedy – whatever your talent might be…just remember that it needs to be family friendly as there will be children in the audience.  Please send your information to intlccc@charter.net by July 15.  We just need the names of those participating, what they are planning on doing, and the length of time.

GOVERNING BOARD VACANCIES:  This year we have three Governing Board positions which have expiring terms.  The Assistant Presiding Minister, Clerk and a Member-at-Large position will be available for election.  Please pray about this opportunity to serve the people of the denomination.  A candidate application form is attached.

SATURDAY NIGHT!!!  RAY BOLTZ IN CONCERT.  We are inviting the larger community to attend.  There will be a $10 cover charge for individuals who are not ICCC registrants.

NCF Members NOTE: Copies of 2 recent newsletters from ICCC are available on our information table in the church lobby.

IMHO Column from Rev. Susan  “In My Humble Opinion”

 

I spent part of today driving on a back road to visit someone. Some back roads have a lot of potholes.  As a matter of fact, some of those roads are more potholes than road.

 

As I traveled from one county road to another, I rounded a curve in the road and saw a road crew. They were patching the holes.  Well, I don’t know if you could really call what they were doing patching.  They were filling the holes with loose tar-covered gravel but most of the filled-holes were not even packed down so that no real progress was made.  Just a temporary fix.

 

I felt God speaking to me as I traveled those familiar roads. I felt His gentle Spirit nudging. 

“What are the potholes in your life?  Where are the empty places in your heart?”

And those empty places can be so many things. Fear, rejection, anger, anxiety, and on and on.  Often we find the potholes have been there even from our childhood.

I thought of how we try to fix our own lives so many times. We patch up the potholes – the same old ones that always get empty again – with a loose mixture that will be scattered again faster than you can say “Holy Moly”.

 

We wind up empty in the same old places. We can even anticipate where those holes are.  They just get bigger and deeper with each rain and every load that travels over them. We call for the road crew again, but it never works for very long. You see, what we really need is for the road to have a new foundation.

 

But how many times do we find ourselves patching up our lives in the same old places with something that won’t stand the test of time?  We prefer the quick fix. Just throw some loose sticky stuff in that hole, pat it down a little, and drive on.  It just doesn’t work too well, does it?

 

Sometimes the only way to get rid of the empty places in our lives is to let God lay a new foundation. We need to get the entire roadbed dug up and scraped down, leveled and covered with a new surface and then it can withstand some heavy rains and ice and snow and storms and lots of traveling cars and heavy trucks and well, you get it. And it is much more expensive and time consuming. In the meantime, it is terribly inconvenient.  Working around the road crew’s schedule. Stopping. Starting. Passing. On and on and on and on.  Cursing the road crew for slowing us down when they are employed to make our lives more pleasant in the long run.

 

When God is trying to get our hearts to pass the legislation, sign off on it,  and then allow for the new road’s construction, we have the same old choices to make again.  Will we spend what is takes – the time and effort and energy and resources – to really allow God to do something better in our lives? Or will we choose the easy route?  Just patching up the potholes. 

You know, one thing that is important about a back road is that all the little back roads connect to a more important big road. Isn’t that the way it is with our hearts? Sometimes it is all the little connecting points that link the more important points together. So every time we allow that pothole on a back road of our heart to be merely patched instead of really repaired, the road becomes a little more difficult to travel.  Oh, we learn where the potholes are.  We dodge them if we are driving slowly enough to do so. But it doesn’t make for a very nice journey. It’ll make you carsick if you swerve around enough.

 

At this stage in my life, I feel more ready to spend the time and effort and energy and resources necessary to get a really good foundation on all the roads of my heart – even the back roads.  I’m a little tired of hitting the same old potholes.

Patching potholes. Sometimes it seems the only option, but I believe we must be willing to build some really good roads that will withstand the tests and trials of life.

 

God is ready with the heavy duty construction equipment to tear up our pothole filled-roads and really build something lasting.

Will you sign-off on that?

 In my humble opinion, peace & shalom….Rev. Susan

 

VIP GAY BIRTH DATES

 

May 13 –  Writer ARMISTEAD  MAUPIN  was born on this date in 1955. Maupin is most famous for his six-book “Tales of the City” series. His later novels include “The Night Listener” and “Maybe The Moon” and “Michael Tolliver Lives.” His

name, by the way, is an anagram of “is a man I dreamt up.”

 

QUOTES TO CONSIDER – The LGBT Network of the LinkedIn.com website has a discussion in which people offer their favorite quotes. Here are a few:

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” — Dr. Seuss

 

 

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover”

– Mark Twain

 

 “It’s easy to take off your clothes and have sex. People do it all the time. But opening up your soul to someone, letting them into your spirit, thoughts, fears, future, hopes, dreams… that is being naked.” ― Rob Bell

 

 

SOME  FRIENDLY PLACES  &  HELPFUL LINKS

 

 

OUR CHURCH’s Web site: www.newchurchfamily.org .

           

*OUR CHURCH FACEBOOK PAGES –  Search for “New Church Family of Daytona Beach” and The Porch of Daytona (youth outreach) – Help us out — post a note occasionally

DAYTONA BEACH RAINBOW CLUB – Informal social group for GLBT people and allies of  any age. Meets 7 p.m. second Monday of the month at Rhokko’s Frozen Yogurt, 200 N. Beach St., in downtown Daytona. E-mail for more information: DaytonaBeachRainbowClub@gmail.com

 

 

MAY 15 DEADLINE — SCHOLARSHIPS for Volusia-Flagler GLBT students – Visit GayDaytona.com for information and to download the Application Form from the Events calendar. Or contact Tom Brown at brownt218@yahoo.com.

 

 GLBT AA Group Meetings at the Lambda Center, 320 Harvey Ave., Daytona Beach, on Fridays at 6 pm.  Also Wednesdays at 7 p.m. at the Community Center, 519 Julia St., New Smyrna Beach.

 

 DAYTONA area gay news and Events Calendar : www.gaydaytona.com   (Operated by the Daytona Beach Business Guild. — Back issues of Word Up can be found at this site.)

VOLUSIA PRIDE 2013 – James R. & Kathy S. are co-chairs — www.volusiapride.org. Planning meetings are held every second and fourth Thursday of the month at the United Church of Christ of New Smyrna Beach. Details: volusiapridensb@gmail.com

 

 International Christian Community Churches, our denomination: www.icccnow.com.  ICCC and its Emmaus Institute also have Facebook pages

 

Jim Geary’s AIDS/HIV  ministry — Jim’s confidential HIV support group meets Tuesdays at 5:30 p.m. at Our Lady of Lourdes-beachside. Call him at 386-235-6420 or 441-7562 for permission to attend.) – www.delicatecourage.com

 

 GLBT Community Center of Volusia County, 519 Julia St., New Smyrna Beach – serving Gay-Straight alliances and other gay youth. www.glbtcommunitycenterofvolusiacounty.com. Also on Facebook.

FREE FILMS – Southeast Museum of Photography presents several free movies each week. Schedule: www.smponline.org.

 

 

ORLANDO GLBT information:  The Center, Orlando’s GLBT Community Center, lists many gay organizations, businesses and events at: thecenterorlando.org

 

 

Outreach Community Care Network: Provides HIV and AIDS testing, counseling, support, information and referrals. outreachinc.org or 386-255-5569. Contact person: Joaquin.

 

 

OneDaytona – Nonprofit coalition working for GLBT solidarity & Pride (youth support, scholarships, etc. ). Meets quarterly. Contact  Tom B. for details. www.onedaytona.com

 

 

 

Equality Florida for gay-rights updates: www.eqfl.org

 

 

TREVOR PROJECT – National youth counseling web site for GLBT coming-out issues, bullying and depression: www.thetrevorproject.org .  Their suicide prevention hotline is 866-4-U-TREVOR

 

 

 SUICIDE Prevention Hotline – 1-800-539-4228 (Act Corp. psychiatric stabilization for Volusia County)

 

HALIFAX URBAN MINISTRIES — Emergency help with  food & shelter, 215 Bay St., Daytona Beach, and www.halifaxurbanministries.org. Volusia-Flagler has at least 17,500 families struggling way below the poverty line.

 

 

GENERAL GAY CHRISTIAN NEWS & VIEWS, including a gay-affirming church directory, an e-mail forum, friend-finder and non-pornographic chat, is available at www.christiangays.com, hosted by Mary Pearson in Oshawa, Ontario. Most Sundays at 9 p.m., their chat room offers a moderated “Hot Topic” discussion that connects a GLBT issue with the Bible and other Christian teachings.

 

 PFLAG New Smyrna Beach/Volusia meets the 2nd Wednesday of every month (no meetings during the summer), 7 PM at United Church of Christ, 203 Washington St, New Smyrna Beach. We can be found on Facebook. Our email address is pflagnewsmyrnabeach@live.com, or contact Kathy at 386.299.0698.

 

 

”JUST US” for professional women 35+ meeting on a monthly basis at local restaurants. Contact dee1023@yahoo.com

 

 FORECLOSURE HELP Hotline operated by Community Legal Services of Mid-Florida.  Call 1-800-258-5600 weekdays or visit  www.clsmf.org

 

 

THANK YOU FOR READING WORD UP – See  you at church!

 

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Gay candidate tops field in N. Miami primary

From Bilerico Project Blog

 

Remember Anna Pierre, the mayoral candidate in North Miami, Florida (and former 90s Creole pop star) who made headlines after claiming she was endorsed by Jesus Christ?

The election was held yesterday, (May 15) but because none of the seven candidates received a majority of the votes, the two top vote-getters will compete in a run-off election next month to decide the winner.

But Ms. Pierre won’t be on the ballot. Out of 6,783 votes cast, she won just 56 — 0.83% — and came in dead last.

I guess an endorsement from Jesus Christ doesn’t get you very far these days.

UPDATE: The two candidates advancing to the run-off election on June 4 are former North Miami mayor Kevin Burns, who received 33 percent of the vote, and Lucie Tondreau, who garnered 28 percent. Burns is openly gay, so if one believes (as Ms. Pierre apparently does) that Jesus himself had a vested interest in last night’s outcome, it would appear that Mr. Christ ditched the crazy lady and backed the gay dude instead.

Awesome.

Fundie moms attack Gay Days

GayStar News

Just in time for Mother’s Day, a fundamentalist group calling itself One Million Moms (OMM)  once again is campaigning against Gay Days, the June 1 gay get-together at Disney World in Orlando.

OMM believe the long running `event is planned with the intent to expose and desensitize children to this [gay] lifestyle by same-sex couples holding hands, hugging and kissing.’

One Million Moms urges their users to email Disney World with their formatted complaint.

The email reads: `I insist you change your policy and protect unsuspecting families and children from being forced as a captive audience to witness future Gay Days at the Magic Kingdom.

`Please stop this offensive event from occurring in the midst of thousands of children by requiring proper conduct while monitoring inappropriate behavior, public displays of affection and dress code.

`If patrons cannot restrain themselves, then they should be asked to leave the park.’

Despite their name, One Million Moms’ actual membership size is roughly 40,000. It is part of the conservative, fundamentalist Christian American Families Association.

Disney World, whose recent president is openly gay, replied to One Million Moms on the issue a few years ago. OMM said: `Their response was simply that they do not sponsor this event.’  It is organized by a separate organization,  Gay Days.

Gay Days have been running at Disney World since 1991 when around 3,000 LGBTs attended. Now the day rivals pride parades in San Francisco and New York City.

Gay Days appeals not only to LGBT singles but also LGBT families. Many of the LGBTs coming to Gay Day bring their children who can visit the park, bobble paint and tie-dye.

But this hasn’t stopped One Million Moms attacking an event that is big business for the Disney resort and area.

And it’s not the first anti-gay attack OMM has made. The website has also targeted Ellen DeGeneres, The Gap, Urban Outfitters and rainbow Oreos. Their calls for boycotts have so far proved ineffective.


Word Up 215 — New Church Family newsletter

Word UP  215 – May 8, 2013

 

 

 

Weekly newsletter of NEW CHURCH FAMILY

 

3520 W. International Speedway Blvd. (US 92)

 

Daytona Beach, FL 32124

 

Rev. Susan McDaniels, interim pastor

 

 

 

Telephone: 386-527-5952

 

E-mail: NewChurchFamily@gmail.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

THIS SUNDAY – MAY 12 – MUSIC SERVICE at 10 a.m., led by openly gay Christian recording artist Shawn Thomas of West Palm Beach. Shawn, who performed at our church in October 2011 and at the ICCC Convocation last fall, will give us about 45 minutes of special music in place of our regular service. We also will have Communion, prayers of the people, and brief remarks by Rev. Susan McDaniels.

 

      We will have our regular offering plus a love offering for Shawn’s music.

 

       Our special service is open to anyone. Bring a friend to hear Shawn’s spirit-filled singing.

 

 

THIS SATURDAY – MAY 11 – EARLY BIRD DINNER with SHAWN and his partner BRIAN – We will meet Shawn & Brian about 4 p.m. at Bay Street Seafood, 141 Bay St., in downtown Daytona. A free public parking lot is behind the restaurant, enter from Bay Street. Join us for this Dutch treat meal and a chance to have casual conversation with our guests. The restaurant is moderately priced, under $10 for most entrees. Contact Susan or Tom by Thursday if you plan to attend… we have reserved seats for 10, but can add more if needed. FYI, the Halifax Seafood Festival will be ongoing at Manatee Island about a block away, so if you’re really, really hungry, come downtown early for appetizers. ($5 admission to the festival).

 

 

THIS THURSDAY – MAY 9, 6:30 p.m.   GOD GAB about the Gospel of Judas – Dr. Paul Edson of  Embry-Riddle will introduce us to this strange papyrus text found in an Egyptian tomb about 30 years ago. It’s not part of  the “official” Bible recognized by most churches, and probably never will be, but it presents a different view of Judas, showing him as the disciple who was smarter than the others, and the one who received a private revelation from Jesus shortly before Jesus was crucified. Our God Gabs are open to anyone so invite a friend!

 

 

 

SCRIPTURE FOR SUNDAY

 

 

 

Lectionary Readings (Revised Common Lectionary, Year C)

 

 

Acts 16:16–34; Psalm 97; Revelation 22:12–14, 16–17, 20–21: John 17:20–26

 

 

 

PRAYERS –

 

 

Continued healing for Margaret’s brother Pat

 

Healing for Linda N.,  recovering from multiple falls

 

Continued progress for Jennifer ‘s broken leg in rehab

 

Healing for Betty, suffering bronchitis

 

Healing for Frank and Gerry L., both ill

 

Safe travel for Kitty, visiting family in the Keys

 

 

SUNDAY SERMON RECAP – Jesus as our  friend (May 5) – Rev. Susan recounted the story of Jane, her best friend in childhood. Jane got transferred to another school, but sometimes the two met in a park after classes. They would enter the park from opposite ends, and call to each other until they spotted each other in the middle. Our relationship with Jesus can be the same as with a best friend – unseen but the bond is just as strong. Sometimes we lose touch with a best friend. Years go by, but when there is a reunion, we can pick up instantly where we left off, and renew that bond. In the same way,  Jesus is always ready to resume that friendship, whenever we  decide to make room in our lives for him again. 

 

 

CHURCH & COMMUNITY CALENDAR

 

 

MAY 8, WED. – NCF Office Hours 8:30 a.m. – 12:30 p.m.

 

 

MAY 9 – 6:30-9:30 p.m. – Fundraiser for “KEEP ORLANDO PRIDE PARADE IN THORNTON PARK.”  Wine & Art walk in Thornton Park, Orlando, to offset some of the higher costs to keep the Parade in Thornton Park. Starts at Olde Towne Brokers, 11  N. Summerlin Ave., Orlando. $10 donation. After-the-event party at Studio 54 at The Veranda, 111 N. Summerlin. No cover charge. DJ Lola B.

 

 

MAY 9,  Thurs., 7 p.m. – VOLUSIA PRIDE planning meeting,  UCC, 203 Washington St., New Smyrna Beach. Early planning for the Oct. 26 festival to be held in Riverside Park, New Smyrna Beach.

 

 

MAY 9, THURS, 6:30  – GOD GAB on “Gospel of Judas,” led by Dr. Paul Edson, NCF Boardroom, open to all (You don’t have to be a church member to attend.) Free.

 

 

 

MAY 10, FRI., 8:30 a.m. –  TGIF COFFEE BREAK – New Church Family and friends   gather at Panera Bread in Port Orange (next to Target) for an hour of just social chit chat. Anyone is welcome to join us – we usually sit in the rear.

 

 

MAY 11, SAT. — 11 a.m. – 7 p.m. – DAYTONA SEAFOOD FESTIVAL on Manatee Island, off 325 N. Beach St., downtown Daytona Beach. All-day event features live music, a great variety of seafood dishes, a Super Kid’s Zone, and all the family fun you can handle.  General Admission- $5, Kids 12 and under free.

 

 

MAY 11, Sat.  – LETTER CARRIERS FOOD DRIVE – Leave non-perishable food items in a plastic bag by your mail box. This project by the postal union benefits many area church food banks. Old-timers will recall our church received truckloads of food when we were operating a food pantry on Ridgewood Avenue.

 

 

MAY 11, SAT, 4 p.m. – NCF Get-together with Shawn & Brian, Bay Street Seafood Market & Deli, 141 Bay St., downtown Daytona. RSVP with Susan or Tom. (Dutch treat dinner in the $10 range)

 

 

MAY 12 – MOTHER’S DAY – Shawn Thomas special music at New Church Family, 10-11:30 a.m. Free, love offering accepted. Shawn also will be selling CDs, T-shirts, etc.

 

 

MAY  13, MON. 6 p.m.  NCF Board Meeting. Topics include: Interim pastor covenant, termite protection proposals; suggestions from our new Suggestion Box.

 

 

MAY 14 –  8 p.m. – IMPROV at CINEMATIQUE –Random Acts of Insanity Improv Troupe takes the stage for an hour of laughs followed by an Indie Movie. Visit www.Cinematique.org or call (386) 252-3118 for more information. General admission- $5.

 

 

MAY  14, 6 p.m. – BUSINESS GUILD MONTHLY DINNER, Clubhouse Restaurant, 600 Wilder Blvd, Daytona (see below)

 

 

MAY 14, 5:30 p.m. – HIV Support Group, led by Jim Geary, Our Lady of Lourdes church, Daytona beachside.

 

 

MAY 15 – DEADLINE for applications for GLBT scholarships offered by OneDaytona. (We have the forms at church or they can be copied from www.gaydaytona.com.)

 

 

 

 

 

BUSINESS GUILD UPDATE from Bob B., secretary:

 

 

 

Just a reminder about the Business Guild monthly social May 14, Tuesday, at the Clubhouse Restaurant, 600 Wilder Blvd, Daytona Beach. Time 6 pm. Choice of menu. (Note: Anyone can attend; you don’t have to be a Guild member.)

 

The Guild’s recent news:

 

    The Guild has contributed $250 to the One Daytona Scholarship fund,, and $300 to Volusia Pride, to support the Oct 26 festival to be held in Riverside Park New Smyrna Beach. We intend to man a booth at this venue and if you would like to have your business cards distributed there, please let us know.

 

    The Guild has taken a half -page ad (with GayDaytona businesses listed) in Watermark’s 2013 destination guide to be distributed in 3 Mid-Atlantic cities — Washington D.C., Philadelphia, and New York City — as well as locally. It will be published May 23 and distributed June 13. It will also be available on WatermarkOnline.com and OrlandoGayTravel.com. This is a year-long publication. In addition, an ad in will be placed in the Watermark bi-weekly newspaper, which distributes 50,000 free copies at GLBT locations in Central Florida. 

 

    Gaydaytona.com, the guild’s website, offers links to other websites, plus various articles of special interest to the local and statewide LGBT community. A classified pull down feature has been added. If you wish to place an item there,  let us know (no charge). The web site’s calendar of events is updated several times a week.

 

   If you plan to attend, let us know so we can notify the restaurant. We needed their big room last month. Thanks for your support. – Bob. B.

 

 

VIVA OUR VOLUNTEERS

 

n  See Steve G. if you’d like to help support the Relay for Life, held recently at The Pavilion in Port Orange to benefit the American Cancer Society. Make checks payable to the American Cancer Society. Our Benevolence Fund has made a donation.

 

n  Thank you to Keith for a cartoon tapestry that will brighten our emerging Kids’ Corner in the rear of the sanctuary. We are buying some hardware so we can get both the tapestry and our AIDS memorial quilt in place this month.

 

n  Jerry is collecting news clippings on GLBT issues. If you have something you’d like displayed on our lobby bulletin board, hand it to Jerry.

 

n  Clarence is back at the sound board, helping us get song lyrics projected onto the screen above the altar.

 

n  Reminder to save your aluminum cans for Keith’s recycling project. It benefits Halifax Urban Ministies. Bring your bagged cans to his car, which is usually parked near the Dumpter in the church lot.

 

 

    CHURCH & COMMUNITY CALENDAR – Part 2 (Future Events)

 

 

 

MAY 20, 8:30 a.m. – DIVERSITY BREAKFAST sponsored by The Center (Orlando GLBT Center). Dubsdread Country, Orlando. Guest speakers: Stuart Milk, Harvey Milk’s nephew and head of the Harvey Milk Foundation, and US Rep. Alan Grayson. Tickets. $43 each, can be ordered at: http://harveymilkorlando.eventbrite.com

 

 

 

MAY  24 — May 24 –  FRONT PORCH FRIDAY Festival, downtown Daytona Beach. — The May 24 festival will celebrate the 1950s.  Downtown merchants are offering special events, promotions, sales and musical flashbacks from 7 a.m. to 9 p.m or later. For more information go to www.RiverfrontShopsofDaytona.com.

 

 

MAY 25 , SAT. 6 p.m. – JUST US Dinner (for  women professionals age 35 and up),

 

Inlet Harbor, 133 Inlet Harbor Road, Ponce Inlet. 386.767.5590; www.inletharbor.com. Please RSVP at least a week in advance.

 

 

MAY 25, 6-8 p.m. – SPAGHETTI DINNER FUNDRAISER to benefit PFLAG and Volusia Pride. Please RSVP in advance to the GLBT Community Center, 519 Julia St., New Smyrna. Suggested donation $10 Tickets may be purchased online at www.glbtcommunitycenterofvolusiacounty.com

 

 

MAY 26, 10-5 p.m. – SPACE COAST PRIDE, Wickham Pavillion, Melbourne.

 

 

MAY 28, 5-6:30  p.m. — FOSTER CARE MENTORS — Community Partnership for Children is recruiting mentors for teens in foster care. Orientation will be held  at the CPC office, 160 N. Beach Street, Daytona Beach. To register, contact Susan Hiltz at (386) 547-2293 or via email at Susan.Hiltz@cbcvf.org.

 

 

 

MAY 30, THURS., 2 p.m. – ST. JOHN’s RIVER ARCHAEOLOGY TALK —

 

The St. John’s River has shaped Florida’s human life for centuries. Learn about the river’s archaeological sites from Sarah Miller, coordinator of Project Archaeology.

 

Port Orange Library, Free.

 

 

 

JUNE  1, SAT. – Gay Day at  Walt Disney World – Promoters claim about 1 million GLBT people will make the annual pilgrimage to Mickeyland.

 

 

ONGOING through June 2  – ICON EXHIBIT at the Museum of Arts & Sciences. Icons of Russian and Greek saints and the historic stories of the saints themselves are  represented in this grouping. Also featured: Women Painting Florida, a sampling Florida-themed artwork by women over the decades.

 

 

ONGOING through AUG 11 – TITAN-O-BOA, the MONSTER SNAKE—A special exhibit centering on a model of the world’s largest snake – 45 feet long — at the Florida Museum of Natural History, Hull Street (I-75 Exit 384). Gainesville. Co-sponsored by the Smithsonian, the show presents fossilized bones found in the Colombian rain forest in 2003. There will be many live snakes (smaller ones) on display, too. Admission for Florida residents $5.    More details: http://www.flmnh.ufl.edu/  

 

 

NEWS OF OUR EXTENDED FAMILY – Chris F. informed us a new GLBT AA group is meeting every Wednesday night at the GLBT Community Center of Volusia County at 7 p,m. The address is 519 Julia St. (off U.S. 1) New Smyrna Beach. For more information , please contact Frank at 386-308-0688.

 

    Mark May 25 on your calendar. That’s when the Community Center will  serve a spaghetti dinner to raise funds for the local PFLAG chapter and Volusia Pride 2013.  

 

                  

 

FROM Rev. Susan —  IMHO (in my humble opinion)  “The Wrestling Match”

 

 

 

Seasons of trials and troubles, pain and suffering, disappointments and dying dreams can leave all of us with more questions than answers. We find ourselves unable to box our theological answers as neatly as before. We wrestle with questions like, “Where are you, God?” “Why have you deserted me?” “Are you real, God?” In our trials, we reach for our false strengths and we find that they were only illusions.

 

My greatest trials thus far lie just behind me. I can still see them in the rear view mirror. And yet, I move forward looking unto the road before me.

 

As Laura Story so beautifully sings in her song, “Blessings”, I have found blessings in the raindrops, healing in the tears, God’s presence in my sleepless nights. Somehow, in the ways that only God can, my trials have brought me God’s mercies in disguise.

 

I don’t like it. In fact, I hate it, this process where God allows us to be stripped of our defenses and our facades. I hate the process and cherish the result.

 

 

 

“And Jacob was left alone; and there wrestled a man with him until the breaking of the day. And…the man touched the hollow of his thigh.” Genesis 32:24-25

 

God met Jacob when he was alone. All of Jacob’s assets were of no good to him when he met God one on one. There was no one or no thing for Jacob to rely on that night. And maybe for the first time in his life, he didn’t run. He stayed, he wrestled. And God blessed him by wounding him.

 

Forever more Jacob had a change of identity. He would no longer be identified with his false identity. He would now be, “Israel”, He had stayed in the battle and not run away. He had prevailed.

 

He was now marked by his encounter, his wounding.

 

For Jacob, now Israel, the wound would forever be with him to remind him that he had encountered God. He was blessed. He was forgiven. He had found his true identity and could leave his past behind…except for that limp.

 

He could never take a step without his limp.

 

God’s strength would be shown in Jacob’s weakness.

 

 

 

Our God encounters have a way of showing us the eternal perspective of all we use to give us value in false ways. Whether money or beauty or influence, it can all be lost in an instant and suddenly one finds that the only things of value in this world is that which has been touched by God.

 

Our most transforming wrestling matches are between our own fleshly strengths and God’s supernatural strength. We will always lose, and yet, in losing, we win.

 

We become marked and there is no shame in the limp because it anchors us to the true hope we can only find in God.

 

 

 

If there are blessings in your raindrops, healing in your tears, the nearness of God in your sleepless nights, and God’s mercy disguised in your trials…….Be grateful and glad!

 

 

 

Blessings, peace, hugs, shalom, amen and amen

 

 

 

A POEM for your REFLECTION

 

 

(Note: Tom spotted this poem on a Linked In GLBT blog. It won a monthly poetry contest on the Goodreads.com book-club blog. If you’d like to know more about Jena Strong in Amherst, Mass., here are links to 2 of her blogs: “Don’t Miss This” — a memoir of marriage, motherhood, and coming out — http://dontmissthis.wordpress.com – and Jena’s personal blog: www.jenastrong.com

 

 

 

Throwdown

 

 

 

by Jena Strong

 

 

give me the drag queens, dolled up and delicious

 

the two moms bickering over the dishes

 

the orphans, adopted, the chosen, the trannies

 

the witches, the protestors, tattooed laughing grannies

 

the boys wearing tutus and all the shirtless

 

daughters of the revolution playing basketball

 

on the broken courts of lost fathers

 

the failures, the forgotten, the throwdown, the freak show

 

the hurts and the heartbreaks, the hassles and headaches

 

the beggar, the baron, the shelter, the clambake

 

trade in the cynical, the stubborn, the splintering showdown

 

because it’s time to unite now, yes it’s time to ignite now

 

it’s time to pick up the phone to say, It’s me and I love you

 

 

 

 

 

AND on a lighter note  (from Teresa and Deborah)

 

 

 

Shirley & Marcy

 

 

 

A mother was concerned about her kindergarten son walking to school. He didn’t want his mother to walk with him. She wanted to give him the feeling that he had some independence but yet know that he was safe. So she had an idea of how to handle it. She asked a neighbor if she would please follow him to school in the mornings, staying at a distance, so he probably wouldn’t notice her. She said that since she was up early with her toddler anyway, it would be a good way for them to get some exercise as well, so she agreed.

 

 

 

The next school day, the neighbor and her little girl set out following behind Timmy as he walked to school with another neighbor girl he knew. She did this for the whole week.

 

 

 

As the two kids walked and chatted, kicking stones and twigs, Timmy ‘s little friend noticed the same lady was following them as she seemed to do every day all week. Finally she said to Timmy, ‘Have you noticed that lady following us to school all week? Do you know her?’

 

 

 

Timmy nonchalantly replied, ‘Yeah, I know who she is.’

 

 

 

The little girl said, ‘Well, who is she?’

 

 

 

‘That’s just Shirley Goodnest, ‘Timmy replied, ‘and her daughter Marcy.’

 

 

 

‘Shirley Goodnest? Who is she and why is she following us?

 

 

 

‘Well,’ Timmy explained, ‘every night my Mum makes me say the 23rd Psalm with my prayers, ‘cuz she worries about me so much. And in the Psalm, it says, ‘ Shirley Goodnest and Marcy shall follow me all the days of my life’, so I guess I’ll just have to get used to it!’

 

 

 

The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make His face shine upon you, and be gracious unto you; the Lord lift His countenance upon you, and give you peace. “May Shirley Goodnest and Marcy be with you today and always.”

 

 

OUR CLASSIFIEDS:

 

 

HELP WANTED –  Case Manager needed by Neighbor To Family to supervise foster caregivers. The case manager will also work therapeutically with birth and foster parents to attain permanency for sibling groups. JOB REQUIREMENTS: BSW or BA in related human services field and three years of child welfare experience required, MSW or MA preferred. Apply online at www.neighbortofamily.org or send resumes to jobs-daytona@ntf.org. 

 

 

HELP WANTED –  Licensed mental health therapist sought by the Bunnell office of Children’s Advocacy Center.  Master’s d egree in a mental health field required, plus at least a year of experience in dealing with child sexual abuse. Send resumes to sfarmer@childrensadvocacy.org.

 

 

WANTED: Used washing machine in good working order. Call Mike (386) 957-4558.

 

 

 

ODD JOBS NEEDED – Mike B., also known as Pony Tail Mike, is seeking odd jobs, such as landscaping, painting, moving furniture, cleaning houses, etc. He lives beachside near Peabody Auditorium. Telephone  386-965-2987 cell, or 386-453-3363.

 

 

FOR SALE – KingChamp Books refreshes its inventory each week. Check out the latest additions by browsing the bottom of our home page,  www.kingchampbooks.com.  (KingChamp is an online book business operated by Tom B. since 2001. Hundreds of our books are offered for sale to benefit New Church Family. Many are GLBT-oriented. Why go to Amazon or eBay when you can shop locally and save shipping charges?)

 

 

SOME  FRIENDLY PLACES  &  HELPFUL LINKS

 

 

 

 

OUR CHURCH’s Web site: www.newchurchfamily.org (newly updated!)

 

                                                                                  

 

*OUR CHURCH FACEBOOK PAGES –  Search for “New Church Family of Daytona Beach” and The Porch of Daytona (youth outreach) – Help us out — post a note occasionally

 

 

 

 

SCHOLARSHIPS for Volusia-Flagler GLBT students – Visit GayDaytona.com for information and to download the Application Form from the Events calendar. Or contact Tom Brown at brownt218@yahoo.com. DEADLINE: Extended to MAY  15.

 

 

 GLBT AA Group Meetings at the Lambda Center, 320 Harvey Ave., Daytona Beach, on Fridays at 6 pm.  Also Wednesdays at 7 p.m. at the Community Center, 519 Julia St., New Smyrna Beach.

 

 

 DAYTONA area gay news and Events Calendar : www.gaydaytona.com   (Operated by the Daytona Beach Business Guild. — Back issues of Word Up can be found at this site.)

 

 

VOLUSIA PRIDE 2013 – James & Kathy S. are co-chairs — www.volusiapride.org

 

 

 DAYTONA BEACH  RAINBOW CLUB – GLBT  social gathering, meets 3rd Thursday of the month at 7 p.m. at Rhokko’s Frozen Yogurt, 200 N. Beach St., Daytona Beach. Information: Bridget Rose.

 

 

 International Christian Community Churches, our denomination: www.icccnow.com.  ICCC and its Emmaus Institute also have Facebook pages

 

 

Jim Geary’s AIDS/HIV  ministry — Jim’s confidential HIV support group meets Tuesdays at 5:30 p.m. at Our Lady of Lourdes-beachside. Call him at 386-235-6420 or 441-7562 for permission to attend.) – www.delicatecourage.com

 

 

 GLBT Community Center of Volusia County, 519 Julia St., New Smyrna Beach – serving Gay-Straight alliances and other gay youth. www.glbtcommunitycenterofvolusiacounty.com. Also on Facebook.

 

 

FREE FILMS – Southeast Museum of Photography presents several free movies each week. Schedule: www.smponline.org.

 

 

 

 

ORLANDO GLBT information:  The Center, Orlando’s GLBT Community Center, lists many gay organizations, businesses and events at: thecenterorlando.org

 

 

 

 

Outreach Community Care Network: Provides HIV and AIDS testing, counseling, support, information and referrals. outreachinc.org or 386-255-5569. Contact person: Joaquin.

 

 

 

OneDaytona – Nonprofit coalition working for GLBT solidarity & Pride (youth support, scholarships, etc. ). Contact  Tom B. for details. www.onedaytona.com

 

 

 

 

Equality Florida for gay-rights updates: www.eqfl.org

 

 

 

TREVOR PROJECT – National youth counseling web site for GLBT coming-out issues, bullying and depression: www.thetrevorproject.org .  Their suicide prevention hotline is 866-4-U-TREVOR

 

 

 

 

 

 SUICIDE Prevention Hotline – 1-800-539-4228 (Act Corp. psychiatric stabilization for Volusia County)

 

 

HALIFAX URBAN MINISTRIES — Emergency help with  food & shelter, 215 Bay St., Daytona Beach, and www.halifaxurbanministries.org. Volusia-Flagler has at least 17,500 families struggling way below the poverty line.

 

 

 

 

GENERAL GAY CHRISTIAN NEWS & VIEWS, including a gay-affirming church directory, an e-mail forum, friend-finder and non-pornographic chat, is available at www.christiangays.com, hosted by Mary Pearson in Oshawa, Ontario. Most Sundays at 9 p.m., their chat room offers a moderated “Hot Topic” discussion that connects a GLBT issue with the Bible and other Christian teachings.

 

 

 PFLAG New Smyrna Beach/Volusia meets the 2nd Wednesday of every month (no meetings during the summer), 7 PM at United Church of Christ, 203 Washington St, New Smyrna Beach. We can be found on Facebook, our email address is pflagnewsmyrnabeach@live.com, or contact Kathy at 386.299.0698.

 

 

 

 

”JUST US” for professional women 35+ meeting on a monthly basis at local restaurants. Contact dee1023@yahoo.com

 

 

 FORECLOSURE HELP Hotline operated by Community Legal Services of Mid-Florida.  Call 1-800-258-5600 weekdays or visit www.clsmf.org

 

 

 

 

 

THANK YOU FOR READING WORD UP – See  you at church!